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Islam
and Traditional Sexual Ethics
For
Muslims, the institution of marriage based on mutuality of natural
interest and cordiality between spouses represents a sublime
manifestation of the Divine Will and Purpose. This is discernible in
the Quranic verse cited below:
And
one of His signs is that He created mates for you, that you may find
rest in them, and He envisaged between you love and compassion ... (Quran,
30:21)
According
to Islamic tradition (sunnah), marriage has been deemed to be
an essential requirement. Celibacy has been regarded as a malevolent
condition fraught with evils.
The
Islamic approach concerning marriage and morals differs from what is
known about some of the traditional moralizations of a negative kind.
Surprisingly enough, certain traditional moralists regarded sexuality
as something basically wicked. They viewed sexual intercourse; even
with ones legal spouse, as impure, evil, undesirable, destructive, and
as if it were characteristic of the guilty and fallen.
Still
more surprising is the generalized view harboured in the West that the
traditional world commonly believed in the superstition that ascribed
an evil connotation to everything pertaining to sex. The famous
Western philosopher, Bertrand Russell, is no exception in this regard.
In his book: Marriage and Morals, he generalizes that:
"
... anti-sexual elements, however, existed side by side with the
others from a very early time, and in the end, where ever Christianity
and Buddhism prevailed, these elements won a complete victory over
their opposites. Westermarck gives many instances of what he calls
'the curious notion that there is something impure and sinful in
marriage, as in sexual
relations generally.
In
the most diverse parts of the world, quite remote from any Christian
or Buddhist influence, there have been orders of priests and
priestesses vowed to celibacy. Among the Jews the sect of the Essenes
considered all sexual intercourse impure. This view seems to have
gained ground in antiquity .
...
There was indeed a generalized tendency towards ascetism in the Roman
empire. Epicureanism nearly died out and stoicism replaced it among
cultivated Greeks and Romans . ... The neo-Platonists were almost as
ascetic as the Christians. From Persia the doctrine that matter is
evil spread to the West, and brought with it the belief that all
sexual intercourse is impure. This is, though not in an extreme form,
the view of the Church ..."
[1]
Negative
sexual attitudes continued through the centuries to affect masses of
credulous people, in an adverse and also frightening manner of
repugnance towards sex. The high incidence of psychosomatic disorders
and spiritual ailments is largely and uniquely attributed by some
psychoanalysts to a widespread prevalence of deeply ingrained negative
sexuality.
What
could have been the causative factors in the misconceptions about
sexuality? What could be the reasons for men to deny themselves the
natural satisfaction and the psychosomatic well being associated with
healthy and desirable sex? Why should people lead their lives, so as
to virtually condemn an essentially wholesome part of their lives?
These are some of the complex questions for which thinking men have
yet to provide meaningful and convincing answers. Yet, we all know
that there could be many different reasons for, and causes of,
aversion to human sexuality.
Apparently,
the reasons include prejudicial thinking about sexual desire and
intercourse. The prejudice was carried to the extreme among the
Christians, in organizing their churches and the clergy.
The
celibacy of Jesus Christ inspired them to the effect that married
status for saints and preachers was considered tantamount to pollution
of their chastity and piety. Accordingly, Popes are always chosen from
among unmarried priests. In fact, all the members of the Catholic
clergy are bound by their oaths of celibacy towards remaining
virtuous.
Bertrand
Russell says:
"Two
or three beautiful descriptions of this institution (marriage) have
been culled out of the immense mass of the patristic writings; but in
general, it would be difficult to conceive anything more coarse or
repulsive than the manner in which they regarded it . ... The object
of the ascetic was to attract men to a life of virginity, and as a
necessary consequence, marriage was treated as an inferior state . ...
To 'cut down by the axe of Virginity the wood of Marriage' was in the
energetic language of St. Jerome, the end of the saint" [2]
Church
approves marriage for purpose of human procreation. The need for
propagation of human species is not construed as something adequate to
lift the stigma of impurity from any sexual act. Another reason for
conceding marriage is to eliminate fornication between men and women.
Again to quote Bertrand Russell:
"Christianity,
and more particularly St. Paul, introduced an entirely novel view of
marriage that it existed not primarily for the procreation of
children, but to prevent the sin of fornication" [3]
The
Catholic church regards marriage as sacrosanct and binding until death
intervenes. Accordingly, dissolution of marriage, or divorce, is not
permitted. The prohibition of annulment of marriage or divorce may
have something to do with a possible desire to atone for the original
sin, resulting in the expulsion of Adam and Eve in an unmarried state.
Irrational
attitudes towards women prevailed among some of the ancient peoples.
These included a notion that a woman was not a complete human being;
for, her situation as a creature might well lie somewhere between a
human being and an animal. Also, she was devoid of an articulate
spirit, so that she could never make it to Heaven! Similar other
superstitions were rampant in the past.
Fortunately,
however, the aforementioned beliefs and notions were not universally
carried to the extreme. Any natural limits of women, as identified and
evaluated in the past, were not encroached upon. Any impact of
traditional ways of thinking did not go beyond cultivation of a sense
of pride by men and inculcation of a sense of inferiority among women
through generations.
Apparently,
the belief in the inherent wickedness of sexual desire and intercourse
made men and women absolutely and equally distressed in spiritual
terms. Moreover, it caused a rather demoralizing conflict between the
natural instinct's urge and the religious or sectarian belief about
wickedness of carnal desire and sexual intercourse.
Spiritual
ailments and unhappiness arising from the aforementioned conflict
included disharmony between genuine natural desires and socially
induced aversion towards their fulfillment. The problem assumed
extraordinary proportions, in as much as it became the subject of
intensive investigations by psychologists and psychoanalysts.
In
the above context, the revolutionary logic of Islam can be of
extraordinary interest. Islam gives no slightest indication to the
effect that sexual desire is evil in itself, or that it is necessarily
fraught with evil consequences. On the contrary, the Islamic
endeavour in this regard is aimed at regulating human sexuality in a
most humane manner.
In
the perspective of Islam, human sexual relations are limited only by
the genuine interests of the present society, or the posterity. In
this connection, the Islamic approach follows well known guidelines,
leading neither to any sense of sexual deprivation and frustration,
nor to any repressed or inhibited sexual desire. It is a pity that
scholars, like Bertrand Russell, who has evaluated the Christian and
Buddhist morals, have refrained from specifically commenting on
Islamic ethics.
In
his book: Marriage and Morals, Bertrand Russell mentions in
passing about Islam. For example, he says:
"Great
religious leaders, with the exception of Mohammad and Confucius, if
he can be called religious - have in general been very indifferent to
social and political considerations, and have sought rather to perfect
the soul by meditation, discipline and self-denial." [4]
Nonetheless,
it is true that from the Islamic point of view sexual desire is not
only compatible with human intellectuality or spirituality, but is
evidenced as part of the nature and temperament of the prophets.
According to one tradition (hadith), love and affection for
women were characteristic of the moral conduct of the prophets.
There
are several other traditions and narrations indicating prophetic
regard for women. According to some, the Prophet of Islam and the
pious Imams too have all explicitly demonstrated their love and regard
for their wives and the womenfolk. At the same time, they have
strongly disapproved of any human inclination towards celibacy or
monasticism.
One
of the companions of the Holy Prophet, Osman bin Madaoon, devoted
himself to Allah's worship to such an extent that he kept fast
practically everyday, as well as regular nightly vigils in prayers.
His wife brought the matter to the attention of the Prophet, who
reacted with visible annoyance and proceeded at once to where his
companion was and said:
"O
Othman! Know that Allah has not deputed me to encourage any monastic
life. My Shariah laws are meant for enhancing and facilitating human
accomplishment of their natural lives. Personally, I offer my prayers,
keep fast and maintain my conjugal relations. Accordingly, to follow
me in Islam means conforming to the traditions laid down by me, which
include the requirement that men and women should marry and live
together harmoniously"
The
Islamic position as explained above makes it clear that human
sexuality in itself neither represents any inborn wickedness, nor it
invariably signifies evil consequences. Furthermore, it clarifies that
wickedness has been traditionally ascribed to human sexuality in the
process of evolving religious morality in the Western world. Now, the
Western world has taken a 180- degree turn in reversing its extreme
traditional morals.
At
present, the Western world believes in respecting and freeing sexual
desires and involvements through lifting of traditional moral
restraints. In fact, many Westerners now favour sexual permissiveness.
They contend that whatever morality has been inherited by them carries
no more than a religious connotation. They claim that today's new
morals are based on not only philosphical, but scientific reasons.
Unfortunately,
the negative sexuality traditionally and recently evolved in the West
has penetrated the moral fabric of our society, too.
This
is despite all the erstwhile difficulty of international
communication. Now with the improved means of communication and
regular international contacts, the modernistic Western speculations
are virtually flooding our society, as will be explained later on
herein.
[1].
Bertrand Russell: Marriage and Morals, George Allen and Unwin
Ltd., London, Paperbacks Ed. 1976, p.p. 31-32
[2].
Ibid. p. 39-40
[3].
Ibid. p. 35
[4].
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